Disappointment

It comes in all forms and in all relationships. If you're human, you can bet you'll disappoint at least one person in your life and that you'll be disappointed more than you'd ever like. It's a frustrating feeling to hav,e because it always involves someone you care about.

When someone does you wrong that you don't care about, it's not disappointment you feel, but anger. Disappointment is as unwelcomed for the giver as it is for the recipient. It means everyone in the situation is hurting.

It is exasperating when you have an expectation of someone and they don't live up to it for the lack of trying vs the lack of ability. And it's like a slap in the face when that person doesn't seem to care that they've let you down, or in turn themselves. It's as if the expectations that they have for themselves are obviously better and much more important than anything you could set for them.

Another source of frustration comes when you are really good to someone and treat them with respect only to have them turn their back on you. If you've wronged them in any way, I guess that's understandable. But when you ditch someone because you have a better offer elsewhere, I hope the karma you deserve finds you! Breaking friend code is high on the list of disappointment inducing behavior.

We all have expectations of others and of ourselves. As we go through life, we get numerous opportunities to learn appropriate and respectable behavior. We can't please everyone all the time, but you can't go wrong when you do the respectable thing. Sometimes we have to stumble and fall before we learn, which means we hurt others. Recognizing that and making amends shows our maturity. Continuing to do what suits you, shows conceit and self centeredness. 

We learn much of who we are at home from our parents. Society also dictates a lot of it. Some people don't have very good examples to follow in either of those as we've become a nation of "what's in it for me". And spmetimes we have great examples sround us and chose differently than waht weve been taught.

Basically, if we hold ourselves accountable to the same expectations that we have of others, all we can do is try and stay on track. But if you set boundaries for others that you don't feel apply to you, be prepared to endure the consequences of that mentality. What comes around, goes around. If you want great things, do great things. The rest takes care of itself.